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Coaching Beyond The Questions

What if the most profound change you could make as a coach had nothing to do with learning another coaching technique?

You are sitting with a client. They have come to you with something they want to change. They tell you their story. You listen. You ask questions. They give you answers.

And somewhere in all of this, something happens that you might not even notice.

You begin to follow their thinking.

Their explanation of the problem. Their assumptions about what is possible. Their ideas about what needs to change.

And you may do this so skilfully that they leave feeling wonderfully understood.

But has anything actually changed?

I have been fascinated by coaching for most of my working life. And the more I coach, the more I discover about what makes the difference between a conversation that is helpful and one that changes someone’s life.

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is ask a question.

Sometimes it is to say nothing.

Sometimes it is to challenge something that has gone unquestioned for years.

Sometimes it is to notice something that neither of you knew was there.

And sometimes it is to abandon everything you thought you were going to do next.

This is the coaching I love.

And this is the coaching we will explore together in January.

Beyond the techniques

There are many excellent coaching models. And there are techniques and processes that can be enormously useful.

But following a coaching model is rather like painting by numbers. You might produce something recognisable, even attractive.

But what would it take to create a masterpiece?

For me, NLP offers something extraordinary. Not simply a collection of techniques, but a way of discovering the structure of someone’s experience.

How do they do what they do?

How do they create the very problem they want to resolve?

What are they doing, often without knowing it, that keeps them stuck?

And how do they already know how to do something different — even if they have not yet recognised it?

When we begin to recognise these patterns, we discover possibilities that neither the client nor the coach could have predicted.

And that is where coaching becomes fascinating.

And what about you?

Because here is something else I have discovered.

You cannot take your clients somewhere you are unwilling to go yourself.

You can learn all the coaching questions in the world. You can master the techniques. You can know the theory.

But what happens when your client challenges you?

When you don’t know what to do next?

When your carefully chosen approach produces absolutely nothing?

When you notice yourself wanting to rescue, advise, impress, explain — or simply be right?

Now we are getting somewhere!

This programme is as much about discovering how you do what you do as it is about coaching others.

Your own patterns become part of your learning. Your beliefs, your assumptions, your ability to be present, your willingness to let go of what you thought should happen.

And the more you discover about yourself, the more you can recognise in others.

So what will we actually be doing?

We will be coaching. A lot.

Real coaching. Real issues. Real discoveries.

We will explore what happens when you:

  • Listen beyond the story to recognise the patterns that shape someone’s experience.

  • Notice the difference between what someone says they want and what their behaviour reveals.

  • Use Clean Questions to discover without imposing your own assumptions.

  • Challenge provocatively, with care, humour and a profound respect for the person you are coaching.

  • Recognise congruence and incongruence — in yourself as well as in others.

  • Give feedback that opens up possibilities rather than simply offering an opinion.

  • Discover when to intervene, when to wait, when to share something of yourself and when to remain silent.

  • Recognise the beliefs and patterns operating at different levels of someone’s experience.

  • Draw on NLP principles and techniques spontaneously rather than following a prescribed sequence.

  • Create the conditions in which people make discoveries that go far beyond the issue they originally brought to you.

And we will pay particular attention to something that is rarely given enough attention in coaching training.

The quality of your presence.

What is it about the way you show up that makes change possible?

How do you become so completely engaged with another person that you can notice the smallest shifts in their language, their physiology, their energy?

And how do you do all this without making the coaching about you?

The best outcome? Your client no longer needs you.

One of my measures of successful coaching is that the client becomes increasingly self-sufficient.

They don’t need to keep coming back for another session to work out what to do next.

They have learned something about themselves that they can apply in situations neither of you has even discussed.

They begin to notice their own patterns. They recognise choices they previously couldn’t see. They respond differently to familiar challenges.

And sometimes they come back to tell you about changes that neither of you anticipated.

I love those moments.

Because that is when you know the learning has become theirs.

How will we know what you've learned?

Not by how many coaching techniques you can demonstrate.

But by what happens when you coach.

By the changes your clients experience and sustain. By the choices they make that were previously unavailable to them. By the evidence that they are becoming increasingly resourceful and independent.

And by what has changed in you.

Can you recognise your own patterns as readily as those of your clients? Can you remain present when things become uncomfortable or unexpected? Can you respond to what is actually happening rather than what you expected to happen?

These are some of the things we will be exploring and testing throughout the programme.

And the accreditation?

Successful completion of the full programme, including the required coaching practice, assignments and assessment, makes you eligible to become an Accredited NLP Coach with ANLP (the International Association for NLP).

You can also choose to participate in the core programme without completing the additional accreditation work. The fees reflect these two options.

For those following the accreditation route, the learning continues beyond our time together through independent coaching with real clients, reflection, recommended reading, written work and review of recordings of actual coaching sessions.

Your coaching will be reviewed through a support and review group and ultimately by me.

This is not about proving that you can coach according to a formula. It is about developing and demonstrating your own skill, flexibility and effectiveness as a coach.

Who is this for?

You will already have completed NLP Practitioner training as a minimum.

You may be an experienced coach, someone beginning to develop a coaching practice, or someone who wants to bring a much deeper quality of coaching into their work and life.

What matters most is your curiosity, your willingness to experiment, and your readiness to discover something about yourself that you didn’t know before.

And perhaps your willingness to discover that some of what you thought you knew about coaching isn’t quite what you thought it was.

January 2027. The Coaching Programme.

Come prepared to coach, to be coached, to challenge, to be challenged, to experiment, to get things wrong, to laugh, and to discover.

I suspect we will all be surprised by what happens.

Including me.

And what about AI?

I have been discovering something fascinating in my own work.

Through an ongoing dialogue with AI, I have found myself questioning assumptions, recognising patterns in my own thinking, exploring possibilities I hadn’t previously considered and becoming increasingly curious about what else there is to discover.

And after more than forty years of working with people, I find that rather exciting!

So we will also explore how AI can become a resource for coaches—not as a substitute for our own awareness, intuition or judgement, and certainly not as something that tells us what to do.

But as a partner in reflection, modelling, experimentation and learning.

And perhaps, in the process, we will discover something about the nature of coaching itself.

After all, if coaching is about creating the conditions in which new possibilities emerge, why wouldn’t we be curious about what AI might contribute?

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